Dear parents, Your sensitive little girl will probably become a wonderful adult. It is the insensitive ones I'd worry more about. Crying is her way of expressing herself and of course it bothe rs you because you might think she is trying to make you unhappy too.
I don't think that's her motive; I think it's just a disability on her part to control her emotions. It has been a while since you wrote to me and either the problem has gone away by itself, or it is getting worse.
In the case of the latter there are a few things you might do to help. If you can show her, by your own example, some other ways of reacting to disappointment, she might pick it up from you. For instance, when the favourite TV sho has been cancelled, you could react by laughint loudly and saying "Well, I guess we'll have to phone the station and complain - and meanwhile, lets have cocoa with marshmallows to cheer ourselves."
And when she can't find a toy, or if someone comes along and takes something away from her, or if she wants to do something that you know she should not do - or whatever other things make her cry - maybe she doesn't want to go to bed - you could say, "This is awful isn't it - and it real ly makes you mad doesn't it - so let's see what we can do to make it better - how about making a happy face with crayons on paper, and sticking it on the refrigerator door - to keep us smiling anyway!"
You get the idea. Replace the misery with some positive action. And lete her go on crying through it all, to get it our of her system. In the the end, it is the ones who CAN cry who can also enjoy all the other emotions that human beings enjoy.
Sorry it took me so long to get around to your lett er. I hope you can weather this episode in her life - there will be many more much more difficult ones.
Yours sincerely, GG